Struggle, Share & Love: A Soul-Bearing Life Coach Story

November 26, 2013

I believe when we are faced with challenges there are not only lessons for us to learn and overcome but that we are called on to share these experiences with others so that they may learn, be inspired, and blessed from our hardships.I know it sounds a little too idealistic, but it truly is what I believe. Call me an optimist or delusional if you wish, I get through my hardships by this belief.I have plenty of hardships to get through. In this blog post I will bear my soul not to gain more business or free myself of some burden, but because I feel I am called to do so.Life coach or not, no one leads a perfect life. I definitely do not, far from it actually.

 

     This is what draws me to be a life coach, my own, not so subtle imperfections. I find myself often inspired by others, but almost never by those with a Hollywood ending-type story. More so by the ass kicking life coaches and individuals who are constantly being challenged, held under, and are still treading and even swimming through the currents. These are the people, life coaches and otherwise who inspire me.

 

     This year has been yet another one of those years. I have had so many extremely emotional challenges that I cannot even count them on all of my appendages! I would need to grow at least one more hand if not two! And yet, here I am, jolly as ever, filled with gratitude and driven to share.I would never wish single motherhood on any woman, ever. Don't get me wrong, we are a strong, ass-kicking gender, but it is no picnic in the park.

 

     Having once lived a Cinderella story (who by the way was basically a slave and a point often missed) I continue to want the best for my children, all 4 of them. It was a hard realization this year when I knew I could no longer keep up the lifestyle I felt they deserved. No more private schools, big houses and maids. Even in Panama everything lay out of reach from my seemingly no-existent budget. Oh how I tried, 18-hour workdays, big paychecks only to pay out a fraction of incurring debts for prep schools, riding lessons, and ridiculous rental costs. Don't get me wrong, I made money, even what some would consider good money, but enough for a family of five to live like we were pseudo rich on one (really three jobs) income? No fricking way, not even close. From eviction, to exhaustion it proved to be too much! I spent so much time teaching balance that I wasn’t properly living it. I wanted to "show" success more than I wanted to "be" success. It had to change.

     You know what happens when it has to change and we refuse to see it? It just happens. Things go to shit and we face our worst enemy, our victim selves. What is a victim self? It is that woe is me personality we all possess. Some show it more than others. The key for me has always been to let her come out, say her peace, I even found my self a few times sobbing in a ball on the floor distraught, but then I send her back to her room and get on with my life. ​Custody struggles are never pleasant; there is just no such thing. Sometimes in the middle of one my chest would feel so tight I would thing my breath would stop, but it didn’t, I exhale and move on. I cannot explain exactly why, but I can say I have felt shame, embarrassment, stress, and desperation all due to people finding out about my struggles while being a life coach. But guess what? Life is life, I am living it, and it isn’t always pleasant for me just as I am sure it isn’t always pleasant for you! It does, however give me an insightful view of hardships, allows me to relate to the everyday person needing my services, may be even more so than someone who has not been faced with these extreme challenges of health and single motherhood. Maybe not. What I can promise to all of my clients and readers out there is that there is always tomorrow, we wake everyday, breathing.

 

     When we wake and feel the gratitude for it rather than the despair of it we can achieve so much, live so fully & and love all who are in our lives both positive and negative.s to learn and overcome but that we are called on to share these experiences with others so that they may learn, be inspired, and blessed from our hardships.


     I know it sounds a little too idealistic, but it truly is what I believe. Call me an optimist or delusional if you wish, I get through my hardships by this belief.
I have plenty of hardships to get through. In this blogpost I will bear my soul not to gain more business or free myself of some burden, but because I feel I am called to do so.

  
     Life coach or not, no one leads a perfect life. I definitely do not, far from it actually. This is what draws me to be a life coach, my own, not so subtle imperfections. I find myself often inspired by others, but almost never by those with a hollywood ending-type story. More so by the ass kicking life coaches and individuals who are constantly being challenged, held under, and are still treading and even swimming through the currents. These are the people, life coaches and otherwise who inspire me.


     This year has been yet another one of those years. I have had so many extremely emotional challenges that I cannot even count them on all of my appendages! I would need to grow at least one more hand if not two! And yet, here I am, jolly as ever, filled with gratitude and driven to share.


     I would never wish single motherhood on any woman, ever. Don't get me wrong, we are a strong, ass-kicking gender, but it is no picnic in the park. Having once lived a cinderella story (who by the way was basically a slave and a point often missed) I continue to want the best for my children, all 4 of them. It was a hard realization this year when i knew I could no longer keep up the lifestyle I felt they deserved. No more private schools, big houses and maids. Even in Panama  everything lay out of reach from my seemingly no-existent budget. Oh how I tried, 18 hour work days, big pay checks only to pay out a fraction of incurring debts for prep schools, riding lessons, and ridiculous rental costs. Don't get me wrong, I made money, even what some would consider good money, but enough for a family of five to live like we were psuedo rich on one (really three jobs) income? No fricking way, not even close. From eviction, to exhaustion it proved to be too much! I spent so much time teaching balance that I wasnt properly living it. I wanted to "show" success more than I wanted to "be" success. It had to change. You know what happens when it has to change and we refuse to see it? It just happens. Things go to shit and we face our worst enemy, our victim selves.

 

     What is a victim self? It is that woe is me personality we all possess. Some show it more than others. The key for me has always been to let her come out, say her peace, I even found my self a few times sobbing in a ball on the floor distraught, but then I send her back to her room and get on with my life. 


     Custody struggles are never pleasant, there is just no such thing. Sometimes in the middle of one my chest would feel so tight I would thing my breath would stop, but it didnt, I exhale and move on. I cannot explain exactly why, but I can say I have felt shame, embarrassment, stress, and desperation all due to people finding out about my struggles while being a life coach. But guess what? Life is life, I am living it, it isnt always pleasant for me just as I am sure it isnt always pleasant for you! It does, however give me an insightful view of hardships, allows me to relate to the everyday person needing my services, may be even moreso than someone who has not been faced with these extreme challenges of health and single motherhood. Maybe not. What I can promise to all of my clients and readers out there is that there is always tomorrow, we wake everyday, breathing. If we wake and feel the gratitude for it rather than the despair of it we can acheive so much, live so fully & and love all who are in our lives both positive and negative.


     So there it is my soul-bearing, Life Coach journey continues daily, full of gratitude and ups and downs. I love and thank you all for allowing me to be so vulnerable with you. I love what I do, I do what I love and I kick my own ass every day. When you are ready to join me on this asskicking, soul bearing journey just click on the life program link and sign up or email me at support@hillarysepulveda.com and we will make this amazing journey of life together XOXO

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